Our intention is to develop a parenting course in order to help improve parenting skills of the parents of children enrolled in our Future Changed Project in Iasi, Romania. For the parents to understand what a huge role they play in their children life and what an effect they can have - positive or negatative - on their future.
The first meeting of the Parent’s school from 2016 took place on 03th February.
The topic of the meeting was: “The role of playing in the learning process”. We’ve discussed about playing which is/should be the main activity for the development and learning process of preschool children. We’ve also identified the other characteristics of the playing like moving, exploring, communicating, socializing, observing, imitating, exercising, discipline, sharing, also enjoying.
For this meeting the main aim was to help the parents know the importance of games in education of children and to let the children play and encourage them in this direction or to help them learn new educative games and to create spaces and conditions for the children to play.
The parents were advised to play with children because in this way they will be able to get closer with them, will know them better, will communicate easier with them and will help their children to develop using learning, creative and moving games. Of course there are parents with many children with different ages and they don’t find time to play with them but the parents were encouraged in this direction.
The families with whom we’ve discussed are from the poorest and sometimes they don’t have money for food and they can’t invest money in buying quality toys for children. We’ve suggested them to create toys for the children from recicable materials or different objects from the nature (stones, sand ...).
At this meeting there were present 20 parents.
In March 2016, the parents were invited at a meeting with the topic “Children’s emotions – identification and support”. At the meeting were present 19 parents with whom we’ve discussed the main emotions that children experience: happiness, fear, anger, sadness, surprise, disgust and despise.
Each parent was invited to talk about what creates happiness, sadness, fear and angers in their children. Below I’m listing some of the answer provided by the parents:
What makes your children happy? R: “When I play with them”, “they are happy when I praise them”, “when I let them watch cartoons”, “When I talk with her and I allow her to help me in cleaning the house”.
What makes your children sad? R: “He is sad because the father is not living with us right now”, “When we, the parents, are fighting and we don’t get along”.
What makes your chilren fear? R: „When I scream at them”, „When he sees us, the parents, that we are verbally and physically fight”.
What makes your children angry? R: „As a parent I get angry when all my 5 childeren are requiring my help at the same time and I don’t know how to solve this and I don’t know what to do, so I hit myself in the head, and this make my children to become angry too”, „my children are getting angry when they are fighting each other over toys or candies”, „when I don’t let them at cartoons”.
When I used these questions, I wanted the parents to identify children’s emotions and what produces these emotions in their children, also we have discussed about solutions and ways to get in control with their anger and other negative emotions.
This month, at the end of the meeting, the parents received a package with hygenic producs and clothes.
On 21st April 2016 we held our third meeting with the parents (The Parents school) with the topic „Marriage and family”. The topic was chosen due to the fact that in our projects we have 28 families (with 110 children) from which only 5 are married.
The main ideas that we’ve covered were:
- I’ve chosen him! Why him and not another?
- Did I had in plan to make a family with children?
- Am I happy (after all these years) with the choise that I’ve made?
- We are two different persons, yet do we know and understand each other and can we accept each other? (only in farytailes we find princes and princesses that lived happy forever, in reality, we all have struggles)
- Do both persons contribute to the good of the marriage?
- Is there forgivness in marriage or do we carry resentments, hate and wish for revenge?
- Do we have common goals in marriage?
- Do we show our affection, admiration, respect and appreciation for our husband and for the children?
- What do you want people to say about you after all these years of marriage?
Each lady was challanged to disscuss these matters and to share personal experiences.
A big part of the mothers that were present said that when they’ve choose the man with whom they fall in love were young (14-15 years old) and weren’t mature enough to take such decisions. „We didn’t thought about it then, we didn’t approached love from this angle”. „Now, with certainty, we think different and we see different”.
At each subtopic, the parents received practical ideas about what it means to have a harmonious and long husband-wife relationship, considering that the good understanding between parents contribute to happiness and healthy development of the children.
Each lady had to check on a scale from 1 to 10 in what degree they feel involved in the relationship with the father of their children. The average grade was 7.5.
Afterwards we’ve discussed the subtopic: Marriage. After listening the reasons why they got married, the reasons for which they didn’t got married I’ve presented some arguments for legal marriage, I have told them which are the legal steps, the necessary documents and I’ve offered my help if they have difficulties in completing the legal papers if they take the decision of getting married.
Many families expressed the wish to get married and to discuss in particular about the necessary steps in realizing this.
At the end of the meeting we talked about abortion and we’ve presented the movie “Life in the womb”. We’ve also offered the tract “The Journal of unborn child” with the informations and names of some institutions that can help the pregnant women to keep their children.
The parents were happy about the discussions, saying that they didn’t had these information’s until now and that they needed them. The number of present parents was 24.
At the end of the meeting each family received food parcels for Easter and a package with hygiene products and clothes.